Sex And Intimacy After Breast Cancer

September 30, 2014

Sex And Intimacy After Breast Cancer- Getting the Facts Right

Although breast cancer is one of the most common forms of cancer among women, advances in research have led to the development of therapies that have proven to be quite effective in treating the disease. Use of chemotherapy, surgery and radiotherapy, among other alternative forms of cancer treatments, have been widely used to treat women suffering from breast cancer. However, after successfully undergoing cancer treatment, many women experience drastic changes in their sexual lives in general and intimacy in particular. In this article, the different ways in which breast cancer affects the sexual lives of women, after it has been successfully treated, are examined.

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Feelings of being unattractive

Usually, many women feel completely unattractive after they have undergone treatment procedures for breast cancer. There are several things that contribute to this feeling among them. First, many of the procedures that are used to treat breast cancer successfully are invasive. For instance, all forms of mastectomy are invasive in that the breast is invaded and tissues removed. Although there are reconstructions procedures that are meant to restore the breast to its natural shape and size, the impact of the procedure affects the sense of being attractive in many women. Secondly, the scars that remain after the procedures make many women to feel completely unattractive.

Furthermore, the majority of women who have undergone treatment for breast cancer tend to feel that they have lost their sense of femininity. Related to feelings of no longer being attractive, a sense of one having lost her femininity is equally devastating and arises from the reality that part or the entire breast has been removed. Also, feelings of unattractiveness in women who have been treated of breast cancer may be influenced by their partners. In cases of women who have lacked support from their partners, the feelings of unattractiveness and loss of femininity are strengthened. On the other hand, availability of support from the partner works to reduce such feelings in the women.

Impact on intimacy

For the majority, diagnosis of breast cancer always results into changes to their sex lives. This happens for several reasons and in several ways. For instance, many women tend to experience a decline in their libido after being diagnosed with breast cancer. There are several factors that are responsible for this. The most important one of them is the direct impact of the diagnosis which sets a train of emotional and psychological responses in a patient leading that lead to a decline of sexual desire in them.

With the reduction in the desire for sex, many women feel that they are failing in their duties to their partners. Feelings of guilt, apparent failure and loss usually exacerbate the condition for such women instead of making things better. In all these, the reaction of the partner matters a lot. If the partner behaves in such a manner to suggest that he is not satisfied sexually by the woman, this definitely makes the situation worse because it validates the original feelings of guilt and failure within the woman. This definitely affects the intimacy patterns of the pair.

Painful sex

In some cases, women who have been diagnosed with breast cancer and have successfully undergone treatment tend to experience general sexual dysfunction. This is manifested in different ways. For example, some women, as a result of hormonal changes and other psychological factors, tend to experience a decline in the desire for sex. This may be detrimental considering that the feelings of the other partner are most likely to be hurt. Secondly, many women who have suffered from breast cancer may experience painful sex as a result of dryness of the vagina. This makes it practically difficult for them to engage in pleasurable sexual intercourse with their partners, thus putting a strain on their relationships.

Apart from this, breast cancer has been known to result into failure of women to reach orgasm during sex. What usually happens is that such women are worried about their bodies to such an extent that they fail to concentrate on the intercourse. Besides, some women have reported that their breasts become completely insensitive after treatment for breast cancer. The presence of this condition often means that women are not able to fully enjoy themselves during sexual intercourse since the breast is a highly erogenous part of the body of a woman.

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Breast cancer has a number of unpleasant consequences on the sexual and intimate lives of women. From poor self image to overall lack of desire for sex, affected women tend to experience a myriad of problems that arise from the direct effects of the disease (or treatment) as well as their own perceptions about themselves. In all these cases, the perception and behavior of the partners play a major role in shaping how women respond to the challenges that they experience. The way a partner behaves may either strengthen the unpleasant effect of breast cancer on the sexual lives of women or diminish them.

Dr. Dalal Akoury has been working with women who have breast cancer for a long time. It is the desire to provide solutions to such women and other patients in general that led her to establish AWAREmed Health and Wellness Resource Centre in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina. Since its establishment, the facility has been a leading center for cancer patients across the world. Our approach to treating cancer seeks to combine conventional treatment methods with different alternative therapies. The result of this approach is your full recovery within the shortest time possible.

Sex And Intimacy After Breast Cancer

Sexual Dysfunction & Substance Abuse

September 29, 2014

Sexual Dysfunction & Substance Abuse – Real time Solution with the Experts

If you want satisfaction in sex the a void elements that may cause Sexual Dysfunction like Substance Abuse. You ore yourself the satisfaction, so do the wright thing.

Sexual dysfunction is a problem that affects many men and women in their lifetime. The condition covers a range of sexual problems including:

Erectile dysfunction
Premature or delayed ejaculation in men
Pain associated with intercourse
Low libido and
Poor response to sexual contact

Drugs and alcohol are known to affect a person’s sexual behavior, ability to function and sensations. Drugs and alcohol are often taken as a way to hide psychological or emotional problems or to ignore physical difficulties that are contributing to sexual dysfunction. However we have four main categories of sexual dysfunction disorders which include:

Sexual desire
Sexual arousal
Orgasm
Sexual pain disorders

Each one has distinct symptoms, yet all are negatively contributed to by drugs and alcohol. Some drugs have been found to make sexual problems worse, others are milder. Regardless, sexual problems can cause major relationship and psychological problems if unresolved.

Sexual Desire Disorders

Sexual desire disorders are more commonly referred to as a loss or decrease in libido. This condition may be caused by the influence of substances, fatigue, depression or anxiety. Some medications such as anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications are known to cause a loss of libido. Alcohol and other substances can also negatively impact on a persons’ libido. Fatigue associated with an alcohol or drug binge may also affect a person’s desire to have sex.

Chronic, long term marijuana use is known to contribute to a loss of libido, especially in women. This lack of sex drive is a symptom of bigger motivational issues that many people suffer when using this drug. For the most part, a persons’ sex drive will return to normal with discontinuation of using marijuana.

Sexual Arousal Disorder

Alcohol is one of the most common substances to affect a persons’ ability to be aroused or maintain arousal. A sexual arousal disorder typically refers to problems associated with getting and maintaining an erection, or for women, to be able to maintain arousal during intercourse. Cocaine and other stimulants can also cause a person to have difficulty in becoming aroused or maintaining a level of arousal.

Orgasm Disorder

Men and women often find they have trouble reaching orgasm when under the influence of alcohol and other substances. Women are especially sensitive to the effect that drugs can have on their ability to orgasm and men can have premature or delayed ejaculation as a result of being high or drunk. Most orgasm disorders, or anorgasmia, are the result of undiagnosed or untreated psychological issues that a person is suffering. Chronic fatigue and insomnia can also affect a persons’ ability to achieve a normal level of orgasm. Opiate addiction is known to cause anorgasmia.

Anorgasmia can cause significant personal and relationship problems. Frustration arising from an inability to orgasm despite stimulation and arousal can cause irreversible relationship breakdowns, especially in the case of men. For women the disorder is more common and can lead to unhappiness, depression and feelings of inadequacy. Therefore having known the consequences of these sexual disorders, it will only be wise that you seek for treatment in good time. The home of sexual disorders solution can only be at AWAREmed Health and Wellness Resource Center under Doctor Akoury’s care. This is health institution was primarily established by doctor Dalal Akoury to meet and restore hope for those who are losing it due to problems like sexual dysfunctions. It may not matter how long you’ve been having this problem, what is important is that you reach out for help by calling doctor Akoury today.

Sexual Pain Disorder

Sexual pain disorders are primarily a female condition. It is a condition which causes a woman to feel immense pain and discomfort when having sex. It is regrettable that this is happening at this point of time, even with the available help offered by very many professionals across the globe. Ladies is pleasurable and should not cause you any pain, it is true that there are two main types of this disorder, dyspareunia or painful intercourse and vaginismus which is an involuntary spasm of the vaginal muscles. Take that bold step and call doctor Akoury today for help, you must not be frustrated by this condition, doctor Akoury will turn your frustrations and pain into lasting fulfillment in your sex life professionally and in confidence.

Alcohol-induced Sexual Dysfunction

Even though it is believed that moderate drinking may increase the likelihood of sexual contact, I want to disassociate this discussion with that theory. Alcohol is very addictive and difficult to control ones consumption abilities. Quite often alcohol consumption is abused and the consequences of this are not friendly at all. Abuse of alcohol will cause partial impotence in men which can be very embarrassing to both sex partners. As for women tis can cause problems with attainment of orgasm, and problems of maintaining arousal and sexual desires. That notwithstanding, alcohol has a way of triggering conflicts and revisiting certain past problems especially when one is suffering from depression and anxiety.

It is important noting that long term, chronic alcohol abuse can affect the sexual impulses in a person, which can cause impotence and additional sexual problems which in many cases may not reversible or treatable.

Treatment for Sexual Dysfunction

Finally this is very critical for you and any other person you may know who is suffering from sexual dysfunctions of any kind. Your starting point will be calling doctor Akoury today for help remember sexual dysfunction can easily be treated through a number of different methods doctor Akoury will advise upon making personal evaluation and assessment to your condition, I recommend that before you think of libido boosting medications like Viagra, seek for professional opinion from doctor Akoury and follow on the medication as advised professionally. The good news about doctor Akoury is that besides being a sexual dysfunction expert she is also an addiction expert who has been in practice for over two decades thereby making her the best option for all your conditions. Remember that abusing drugs and alcohol causes many problems for an individual including sexual issues and the only solution is to stop using the drug before the issues become permanent, something you will be able to do conveniently well under the care of doctor Dalal Akoury.

Sexual Dysfunction & Substance Abuse – Real time Solution with the Experts

Premature Ejaculation: Causes and Treatments

September 22, 2014

Premature Ejaculation: Causes and Treatment

Premature ejaculation or PE, as it is commonly known, is one of the most common forms of male sexual problems. Perhaps it would be right to say that every man must have encountered the problem at some point in life. This is so when one considers how common the problem is in men across different ages and cultures. In this article, we shall examine what exactly this condition is, its causes and how it can be treated. We shall examine different classes of factors that are said to be the causes of this condition. With regard to treatment, our focus shall be on different natural methods that can be used to tackle it. But before we get to that, it is important that you understand what exactly premature ejaculation is.

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What is Premature Ejaculation?

It is actually difficult to develop a comprehensive definition of premature ejaculation. This is so, because of several reasons that are obvious. For example, if we base our definition to the time taken for a man to reach orgasm, this may be right but not accurate since cases of men getting sexual satisfaction during intercourse sessions that last very shortly are not rare. It all depends on the conditions that prevail at the time. What is important though, in defining this condition is the fact that a man reaches orgasm not only too soon but also when he does not wish so. What this means is that for a condition to be taken as premature ejaculation three things are important. The first one is that the man gets to orgasm too soon, depending on the conditions at the time. The second thing is that the orgasm occurs when the man does not wish it to be so. The third thing is that orgasm is prompted in the man after minimal exposure to sexual stimulation. This usually happens too soon after penetration for one to successfully enjoy sexual intercourse.

· Causes of Premature Ejaculation

Now that we have understood what exactly premature ejaculation is, it is important that we move on to its causes. There are many different factors that are behind this condition. It is important to point out at this stage that there is hardly any single thing that is a direct cause of premature ejaculation. What happens in real life is that the condition occurs as a result of a complex interaction of factors in one’s life. Whereas some create the right conditions for the situation to set in, others simply aggravate it by ensuring that you do not break from it.

For the purposes of simplicity, we shall examine the different causes of the condition in terms of groups of factors that operate in a more or less similar fashion.

Causes of Premature Ejaculation from Physical Factors

Premature ejaculation may be caused purely by physical factors. Although this is uncommon, the presence of particular physical factors is usually enough to cause the condition in some people. There are several of such factors. For example, general body fatigue may be a big cause of premature ejaculation. A man who is physically exhausted may find it difficult to take his time and successfully go through the stages of sexual encounter. The physical state of the body may trigger a quick response in the form of an ejaculation that comes far too early. Apart from overall body fatigue, the manner in which the sexual experience is taking place may trigger premature ejaculation. Although this is not common, a hurried sexual experience that is done under unsuitable conditions may contribute to premature ejaculation.

Causes of Premature Ejaculation from Psychological Factors

It is a common saying that the greatest sexual experience is born and nurtured in the mind; the body only experiences a mere sensation. Although this may not be accurate, it underscores the fact that the state of the mind determines how well one enjoys a sexual experience. Since this is so, it then follows that some states of the mind may inhibit one from enjoying a satisfying sexual experience. To men, this inhibition is usually manifested in the form of premature ejaculation. Conditions such as anxiety, depression and overall mental stress are clear causes of premature ejaculation. And such conditions can be caused by different circumstances in one’s life.

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Treatment of Premature Ejaculation

Essentially, there are different natural methods that one can use to deal with the problem of premature ejaculation. A word of caution here is in order. The methods never work when used once; they rather work well when adopted and used over a long period of time. Therefore, for you to get the best results, you have to make them part of your routine.

At the heart of natural methods of treating premature ejaculation is that early ejaculation is a result of particular sensations that are communicated within the system of a man thus triggering him to get to the point – of- no- return during sex too soon. Therefore, if the man can learn to control the sensations, the process triggering ejaculation would be delayed as long as the man needs it to be. This is best done by practice. One needs to get a partner who is willing to go through the practice sessions as a way of improving his performance. During the practice sessions, the man is sexually stimulated to the point that ejaculation is about to be triggered. The stimulation is stopped and the man is allowed to relax fully before another session. When this is done repeatedly, the man will definitely learn to relax during sexual intercourse and control the sensations that arise from the experience thus being able to control the timing of his ejaculation.

Although these methods have been known to work, they may not be effective to everyone at all time. There are certain cases that are too complex to be handled by natural methods. Such cases may require medical attention. So when such is the case, you may book an appointment with us at AWAREmed and we shall evaluate your condition and get the best remedy for you.

Premature Ejaculation: Causes and Treatment

The Symptoms and Treatment of Chlamydia

September 20, 2014

Chlamydia: Symptoms, Effects and Treatment

Chlamydia is one of the most common types of sexually transmitted diseases affecting people leading active sexual lifestyles. There are several reasons that make the disease quite common. To begin with, the disease has got little or no symptoms at all. To many people, the disease may completely fail to show symptoms and only manifest itself later in the form of effects. The second factor is that Chlamydia, which is a bacterial disease, may be easily transmitted during oral or vaginal intercourse. These two factors; the fact that the disease may not show symptoms in some people and that it can be spread even by means of oral sex; make Chlamydia a very common sexually transmitted disease.

Symptoms of Chlamydia in women

Although it has been stated that for many people, the disease does not show its symptoms, it is important to understand that the disease, like any other disease, does have specific symptoms. The only unique thing about it is that even to those that experience its symptoms, this usually happens long after they have contracted the disease. The long period between the time of actual contraction and appearance of symptoms creates ideal conditions for increased transmission of the disease.

There are several symptoms that one may experience after contracting the disease. Furthermore, it has been known that women generally experience symptoms that are completely different from those experienced by men. Here is a brief outline of some of the most common symptoms that some women who have contracted Chlamydia may show after some time.

The first common symptom of Chlamydia in women is manifested in the virginal discharge. Although it is common for women to have vaginal discharge, depending on several other factors, its color, smell and frequency of occurrence really matters. When a woman experiences a sudden and excessive bout of vaginal discharge, this is definitely a sign of a serious infection. In such a case, the woman should see the doctor immediately so that tests can be done and treatment given immediately.

For women who have contracted the disease, there is a gradual change in the discharge from the vagina. To most women, the discharge changes in color and occurs suddenly. The discharge, which is usually white or creamy in color, is a result of the disease-causing bacteria affecting the cervix. Therefore, such a discharge in women is an abnormal sign which may directly point to infection by Chlamydia.

The second symptom of Chlamydia in women is manifested in the form of a burning sensation when one is passing out urine. In general, many sexually transmitted diseases do cause this symptom in women. Therefore, when a women is having a burning sensation when urinating, other sexually transmitted diseases cannot be ruled out. The burning sensation in women is a result of the disease-causing microorganisms invading the urethra where they cause an infection. The burning sensation may be accompanied by an increasing urge to urinate all the time. All these are sure symptoms that one has been infected by Chlamydia and therefore, when one sees them, she should see a doctor immediately.

The third symptom of Chlamydia in women is seen in the form of pain during sexual intercourse. Usually, a woman who has been inflected by Chlamydia will experience pain either during or immediately after sex. For most women, the pain is accompanied with bleeding. These two symptoms, pain and bleeding during or immediately after sexual intercourse, are a result of the effect that the bacteria that cause the disease have on the cervix and even fallopian tubes of an infected woman. Therefore, when an otherwise normal woman experiences pain during intercourse, which may be accompanied by bleeding, she should seek medical attention immediately.

The fourth symptom of the disease in women is that they experience pain in the lower abdomen. Many women who have been infected by the disease experience pain either at the abdomen, the lower back or even in the rectum. Pain in the general hip area may be accompanied by usual sins of fever and a frequent feeling of being nauseated. Although lower abdominal or back pain may not be a clear symptom of the disease, its occurrence in conjunction with the other symptoms that have already been discussed should be taken as a manifestation of the Chlamydia in women.

Effects of Chlamydia in men and women

Chlamydia Disease Chlamydia has several destructive effects on women, that is, if it is left untreated for a long period of time. One of the most serious effects of the disease on women is blocking of the fallopian tubes which automatically leads to infertility. This happens as a result of the bacteria invading and affecting the tubes over the course of time. Another serious effect of the disease on women is manifested during pregnancy. Expectant women who contract the disease can easily pass it over to their unborn babies. This leads to the babies developing different kinds of complications like blindness.

Further, if left untreated for long, Chlamydia causes considerable damage to the pelvis. It is the destructive nature of the disease causing bacteria that leads to a lot of the symptoms discussed before. And when this is left unattended to, it may lead to a number of complications in the form of difficulties in one’s sexual life. More often than not, this translates to difficulties in getting pregnant.

For men, the most common effect of the disease is seen in its effect on the two important parts of the male reproductive system: the urethra and epididymis. Prolonged periods of infection lead to complications that affect the urethra and epididymis. Also, men who contact the disease and fail to get treatment may experience serious infection of the rectum over the course of time.

Since these are serious effects whose treatment may take much longer and cost more, it is wise for one to get treatment the moment the initial symptoms of Chlamydia are seen. Further, it is good practice for one to get tested for Chlamydia at least once a year. This practice, which can be done in any suitable healthcare center like AWARE med, is a good precautionary measure.

Chlamydia: Symptoms, Effects and Treatment

Healing Sexless Marriage

September 16, 2014

When the flame goes out: healing a sexless marriage

The sparkle goes out of perfectly normal marriage every once in a while. It is unusual however to have continued months, or even years of celibacy in marriage. Conjugal relations can become ‘dead’ and unstimulating, becoming just another chore on a long to-do list.

Either way, it is frustrating and can really have one or both partners feeling unfulfilled or unwanted. How does a couple that couldn’t keep their hands off each other turn into ‘that’ couple? Well, focusing on an endless hierarchy of needs can cause a couple to get caught in the rat race. Career demands can interrupt a couple’s time destroying romantic intentions. Caring for children and elderly parents can also take their toll on the marriage. All that responsibility placed on a couple can cause them to feel overwhelmed and responsible for their comfort and happiness. Constant disagreements, bickering and not really listening to your partner can also drive a wedge between a couple that is reflected in the bedroom. All is not lost. There are a few things a couple can try to get things back on track in their sex life.

Physicality.

Go for a full body check-up. Make sure there is nothing wrong with either of you. Discuss the effects any medications and contraceptive methods may be playing into the situation. Confront any issues like vaginal dryness, premature ejaculation etc that inhibit your intimate time together. Get to the bottom of them and look for solutions with a qualified medic.

Keep fit

Maintain your fitness. A regular exercise regimen reduces stress, increases feel-good endorphins and makes you feel more alive. It might also make a couple look and feel more attractive besides, the more admiring looks a couple gets, the more desirable and passionate they feel!

Communicate sexually

Get a discussion going about what turns you on. There is a whole buffet of unexplored sexual territory that you may have overlooked. Find out how your partner’s needs have evolved and stay interested. It might be much easier to share erotic fantasies on an impersonal medium on email or private chat rooms. The idea is to find points of convergence, experimentation and no-go zones in a gentle non-judgmental way.

Flirt and tease

Married couples often assume marriage means consent, and so don’t bother seducing their beloved. They either ask for sex as if it were a business transaction or wait until they are propositioned. Make the most of small opportunities to make romantic gestures and always leave them wanting a little bit more. Cook your beloved breakfast in bed and surprise them with a stimulating massage.

Clear up any resentments

If there are any deep seated issues in the marriage, try resolve them as soon as you can. Don’t let things fester. They will eventually turn up in the bedroom. Matters of infidelity, in-laws and finances can cause strain on a relationship. Consider hiring outside help from a qualified psychologist, sex or relationship therapist to get to the bottom of deep seated issues. Your sex life will be hotter for it!

Be adventurous

Try some of the things on each other’s ‘maybe’ sex lists. It could surprise you to find that you enjoy them! It will be a great turn on to them and a romantic expression of love that can only fan the flames of love. The idea is to be playful, creative, sly demanding etc. Just let go and enjoy the freedom of being your lover’s chosen one.

Make sex a priority

There is no getting around it. Couples with a healthy intimate life make time for it. It doesn’t happen by accident. It is deliberate and requires a lot of dedication. Sometimes it is deciding to learn different techniques, sometimes it means forfeiting certain acts that feel unpleasant to your beloved. Whatever the case, take the time to learn more and more about each other’s bodies and erotic desires.

Find your passion

The fuel that causes great adventures between the sheets also creates excitement in many other areas of life. So if there is a lack of passion in a marriage, chances are there are other areas in life that need to be reignited. Find things that stimulate you and return that spring in your step. Take up mountain climbing, repair vintage cars, start a business, start a homeless shelter etc. You’ll know you’re on the right track when you can laugh at a silly joke for minutes on end.

Sexless seasons come and go, but they do not have to be permanent. Get out of that rut by trying one of these tips. Your spouse will become your lover once more.

When the flame goes out: healing a sexless marriage

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