A Step Further to Controlling Addiction-Parental Roles

It is all about giving the best to your children. Nothing can be best like an addiction free life

The joy of having children is among other things is seeing them through life and transforming them to be useful and productive people in the society. This is very fundamental to all parents whether biological or foster. The common denominator in the up bring of children is to see them develop into worthy people in the tomorrows society. While this is everyone’s wish and hope, it’s not always the case thanks to addiction and problems related to drug addiction. This is becoming a common phenomenon today and it can affect the child at a very tender age that would ordinarily be seen to be easy to manage. The pain in much more inflicted when what you thought you could manage with ease become a pitfall that you cannot handle. This is what I want to share with you in this article so that we can together have the common approach in tackling addiction especially in our children.

Having been in this line I will be sharing some practical experiences I have had to deal with in this journey of finding solutions to drug addiction. It is becoming a normal practice for children as young as 15 years of age being addicted to drugs and very frustrating to control and advise appropriately by their parents. Many of us parents would put up family rules like imposing curfew but still all these rules are broken leaving us very devastated. Then the next cause of action would be to involve a professional for help. This indeed is necessary and visit to the professional office would engage you in discussion with the professional to get to the root cause of the matter and hence find working solutions to the problem at hand. All that these parents wants is solutions and quite often they will not be interested in the discussions because of fear that when the current situations with their children are out of control, it can be frightening, intimidating, and exceedingly stressful, especially when parents aren’t really sure of what their children is using.

 A Step Further to Controlling Addiction-Educating Parents about drugs

A knowledgeable parent will be able to offer the most immediate help because they will be able to recognize and label the condition. They will be able to notice the warning signs, suspicious behavior and get to know the differences between various drugs and their effects. This may be good for a start but often not enough. It is important to note that there will be no significant result is certain things are not changed because if nothing changes then nothing changes. As a professional how then will you help? It is not just about what you tell your patients it is all about change in thinking, behavior and attitude on the part of the parent and the loved one.

It is all about developing a different kind of mind-set which will help you have some control in situations like that. For instance illustrating from the experience of a given family therapist who specifically worked with individuals and families struggling with alcoholism, drug abuse, and dependence, who introduced an affectionately formula known as the “3-C’s” with this he would simply explain to parents and loved ones that:

• You didn’t cause this condition.
• You can’t control it
• You can’t cure it.

This application might appear strange in some ways, however using rational and logical thought processes when dealing with irrational and illogical behavior e.g. alcoholics, substance abusers and out of control situations don’t usually work very well but here is a different way of looking at it, thinking about it, and managing it.

A Step Further to Controlling Addiction-Working with Addicts

A common scenario in working with individuals and families around alcohol/drug abuse and dependence looks something like this:

• The abuser of the substance usually ends up in trouble in their environment be it at school, work, legally or in relationships within the family and outside the family.
• Because of their drinking and drug use, and their out of control behavior they become the focus of attention and considered as the problem or troublemaker.
• In the treatment world they are called the identified patient but to the family these individuals have issues which need fixing for the family can get their normal lives back.

Much of the energy and attention is put on the addicted patients to change their “crazy” behavior. The problem is that many at times they are not able to at that point in time, meaning that you will be asking someone who is out of control to take control. It normally don’t work that way and the condition continues to deteriorate until someone else take that control normally the court, police or families members.

Therefore if the 3-C’s say “you can’t control it,” what then do you control? Well exercise of control may be done if pressure is exerted upon an individual like threat of being put jail, job loss, divorce or eviction this way they may consent to go into treatment which will, hopefully, begin the process of change desired. Keen note should be taken as consenting to treatment may be used as an escape from the current situation (pressure) and once it ends the individual quickly returns to their prior behaviors and lifestyle.

Treatment is very vital, but it is has its limitations, it is only the beginning. If all the underlying conditions like stressors, relationships, etc. in a persons’ life remain unchanged, returning from treatment and sustaining that positive change may be very difficult. Many families believe that by sending someone for treatment will cures them and that during the treatment period they will be free from the crazy behaviors of the patient. That should not be the case, for lasting recovery it is important that the family get involved in the whole process that is before, during and after treatment.

A Step Further to Controlling Addiction-The family Dynamics

It can be easy to complain of your loved one addiction condition and their state of being out of control. But the families always miss a point it is unusual that one particular family member would be out of control for no reason. The point is appreciating families and family dynamics is always complicated and difficult and to add alcohol and drugs further complicate the already complicated problem. Much as we have these substances around us many families do not full information about alcohol and drug abuse and addiction. This deficiency of information leads to confusion and fear when a member of the family is addicted to any substance and so there is great need of creating awareness in all the family units. Finally realizing that there is an information gap Dr. Dalal Akoury, Founded of AWAREmed Health and Wellness Resource Center a facility of plenty you can ask for. Doctor Akoury is a medical doctor with decades of experience in addiction and together with her team of experts they are offering exclusive NER Recovery Treatment to everyone the world over. Your socials status does not matter everybody is welcome including physicians and health care professionals. You will not only be treated but will also be educated through trainings, clinical apprenticeships, webinars and seminars. This is an opportunity for you welcome and be a part of this truly successful and fast addiction recovery treatment.

A Step Further to Controlling Addiction-Parental Roles