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Impact Of Female Sexuality

The Different Impacts Of Female Sexuality

 The impact of female sexuality is of crucial importance to a woman.  The first reason for this is that a woman’s sexuality affects her whole life.  It can turn that life into something worthwhile, or it can turn it into something that is not worth while at all. A woman’s sexuality defines who she is in a primary sense, just as a man’s sexuality defines his identity. 

This gender, or sexual, identification starts at birth.  The first thing the doctor announces is “it’s a boy!” or “you have a girl”. This is the first thing that matters, because it’s the first building block in the edifice that people will someday call “man” or “woman”.  Everything else matters, but is secondary to sexuality. 

Psychological impact 

The sex of a woman is vital to her psychology, as it is vital to the psychological development of a man.  It’s importance to a woman is her identity—to a man, it helps him to define himself as something “other” than a woman.  Since it is so very important, the woman needs to see her sexuality as something to accept and celebrate—it is her foundation as a person.  To a man, it is something to accept, because one of the ways he defines himself is in contrast to a woman.  It is also something to perhaps feel superior about, because as a man, he is gifted with more strength than a woman has.  He has a heavier bone structure than she does; he has more muscle mass than she does. He can protect himself in ways that she cannot.  However, the fact remains that she has something he does not—she has the ability to conceive and create a new human being.  He can contribute to that new human, but she has the ultimate power to say this child will/will not be born.  

Sociological 

A woman’s sexuality is the reason society exists.  Even in the most primitive societies, the responsibility of a man is to protect and nurture his woman.  This is because every man must recognize on some level that if women were not sexual, society would not exist.  That being said, one of the commonalities of every culture is to limit the expression of sexuality. This applies to both males and females, but because of their weaker anatomy, it was more often the female’s sexuality that was limited and defined by men.

 

One of the major ways that this happened was the development of societal “norms” which defined men’s and women’s roles. These norms stated that women did certain things and women did other things.   Since we have come into a time where physical anatomy doesn’t matter as much, women’s roles have been changing changed.  The major ways that this is so are:

  • women have more legal rights
  • women are allowed to have more/different occupations
  • women are accorded a greater stature in society

 

Legal

 

The thing is the legal system was originally meant to protect women. The reason it was important for a man to accumulate wealth was to ensure that his children had something to start life out with.  Who provided the children?–Not his buddies.  No, it was his wife. So in order to assure his children of a proper inheritance he had to take care of his wife.

 

Cultural

 

Again, without female sexuality there would be no culture. After all, what is culture? Culture is the way we live. A large part of the way we live is men trying to impress the women so they would have access to her sexuality, so the men could have sons who they could train to carry on after they were gone. So men do everything they can to impress a woman so she will allow him to live with her.

 

Political

 

This is another way that men sought the approval of a woman, inviting her to live with him and bear his children. This would not have happened if the woman were not a sexual being, and if sex were not gratifying to both men and women.

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Spiritual

 

The earliest religions were those which worshiped women because of their ability to create life. Primitive people still do this.  In that way, spirituality and women’s sexuality are connected.  And according to some US studies, spirituality is also connected to a woman’s sexuality in that women who are more spiritual enjoy sex more and so are more likely to have sex. So men are more likely to espouse spirituality in order to have sex more often.

 

Religious

 

One of the ways in which women’s sexuality has impacted religion is because of an apparent contradiction.  Women who are spiritual have sex more often and enjoy it more.  Men who are spiritual have sex less often. So religion, which places limits on both the woman’s sexual experience and the male sexual experience, was born out of the male sexual experience and serves to restrict and limit the sexual experience of both genders.

 

Female sexuality has greatly impacted our society in many ways.  From serving as the identity touchstone to influencing the ways we think, play, argue, and worship, female sexuality has touched the lives of every female and male alive in a myriad of ways.  This article barely skimmed the surface.

The Different Impacts Of Female Sexuality

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Sexting

Sexting And Its Impacts On Sexuality

Sexting: Sexually explicit messages, photos, videos, or even voicemail can be sent or received over digital platforms devices such as smartphone, email, laptop or webcam. When such a communication takes place, it is called sexting. Sexting is a term coined from two words; sex and text. Sexting does occur between two individuals who are romantically involved with each other.

Impacts Of Sexting On Sexuality

Sexting creates some feeling among those individuals who get involved in the act. On sexuality, the act of sexting does cause a different kind of effects depending on the circumstances and the environment. Sexuality is when one is infatuated with feelings, thoughts or sexual behavior that they are not in control of. So to better understand the impacts of sexting, every angle would need to be examined.

There tends to be some increase in sexual exploration among those individuals, especially teenagers, who practice sexting. When teenagers send or receive messages with sexual contents, their sexuality is aroused, and being teenagers, their curiosity is also awakened. This may lead to the teenagers getting involved in some dangerous sexual habits; like practicing sex with multiple partners, which may consequently lead to contraction of sexually transmitted infections and even unwanted pregnancies.

Sexting

Reputation is also something that would be affected by sexting. When one sends photos are videos of themselves in nudity, there is no guarantee that such message would not end up in some wrong or unintended recipient. Sexting is done in the privacy of the two involved parties, however, when such contents get the light of public, one’s reputation is normally put in line. Tarnished reputation makes one lose credibility in the public face or even at work places.

There is also the case of emotional disturbance. The relationship between the two previously intimate persons who may have been involved in sexting may change for the worse. In most cases, one of the partners may want payback and expose intimate photo or videos of their ex-partner to the public. Such exposure may cause great emotional torture to the victim to the extent that they may lose their self-esteem. Sexting may also cause emotional turmoil in the case where a partner discovers that their better have may be cheating on them. This would be the case when one finds out their partners have more than one partner.

Sexting may lead to sex addiction. Sending and receiving messages of nude photo contents or explicit videos may make one aroused. Such contents would make their urge to have sex increase. The increase in sexual activities caused by this sex wanting feeling may lead to some immoral practices among those involved. Sex addiction leads to prostitution among individuals. Because they are made to no longer be able to survive abstinence, Individuals start paying to have sex. Sex addiction also causes sexual harassment. Individuals who can no longer control their sexual urge ran the risk of getting charged with sexual harassment. Since they are out of control and are unable to practice restraint, accepting a no from a partner becomes extremely difficult.

Sexting

Sexting exposes teenager to sexual contents at a very early age. This, in turn, triggers their sexual imaginations as they tend to do more sex explorations. They, therefore, are forced to develop sexually in their minds long before their bodies. This is particularly harmful to them since they get into sexual activities and practices at a very tender age, ending up getting sexually abused. There is also the feel of social pressure that arises from sexting. Teenagers who have been involved in sexting normally find themselves getting pressurized into having sex as they feel the urge to be like other ‘cool’ people having or practicing sex.

Also, sometimes, there is the case of someone feeling unsatisfied with their body. This is more commonly to women who, when they receive some photos of nude celebrities in their phones from their partners, they tend to question their own bodies wondering why theirs are not well developed as others. This do affect their self-esteem in a great deal.

There is also the disappointment that comes with someone when their nude photo gets to the public. In most cases, one gets shun by people close to them. This is hurtful to individuals especially if they cannot find some help in dealing with such cases. This leads to depression in most cases.

Impacts Of Sexting On Sexuality

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Biblical-sexuality

The Biblical View of Sexuality

Understanding Biblical sexuality

When one reads across the Bible, a wide range of topics are presented throughout is chapters. It primarily contains teachings that guide the human race on how to morally live. One human fundamental topic that has been explored throughout the scriptures book is sexuality. The Bible gives teachings on how human can exist morally as far as sexuality is concerned. There are those scriptures citing that talk of sexuality in great details. According to the Bible, sex as a practice is mainly viewed as a reproductive practice through which God, on the creation time intended for man to use to feel the Earth. Apart from reproduction, sex was also a manifestation of love between two married individuals and was sacred.  Here down is how the Bible views sexuality.

According to the Bible, Genesis, sex was supposed to be practiced by married individuals, who after becoming husband and wife, became one flesh. This infusion into one flesh or soul was enabled through making love. Gen 2:24, 25 reads, “A man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh”. Sex, as portrayed in the Bible, is, therefore, a tool for bonding a husband and wife into a lasting relationship.

Sexuality in the Bible is also viewed as a manifestation of marriage. Couples, according to the Bible, become married through an act of making love to each other. In the book of Exodus, the Bible says that having sex is in its self a form of marriage. It says, in the book of Exodus 22: 16, 17, “If a man seduces a virgin who is not pledged to be married and sleeps with her, he must pay the bride-price, and she shall be his wife. If her father utterly refuses to give her to him, he must still pay the bride-price for virgins. So the bible’s view on sexuality does differ greatly with the view taken by the contemporary world.

The Bible also portrays sex as a Godly gift that should be treasured and shared between two individuals who love each other and most importantly, husband and wife. Genesis talks of making love as a show of a man’s love to his wife, and the joy the two get as a result of doing the act. Gen 24: 67 say, “Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah, and her married Rebekah. So she became his wife, and he loved her, and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.”

Biblical sexuality

The Bible, therefore, emphasizes the purity of people and should therefore only be practiced when and only if one is married. Meaning that pre-marital sexual activities is not encouraged by the bible. And even those who get married are allowed by the Bible to practice fidelity in marriage. So married couple should only have sex with their marriage partners. Sex, therefore, had two purposes mainly, having children and for pleasure in marriage.

Sexual vices such as rape are also talked about in the bible. The Bible condemn such acts and just like in the contemporary society, the scriptures also provide for penalties subjected to those commit such offenses. In the ancient society, rape was punishable by death. The book of Deuteronomy clearly spells out the penalty. In Deuteronomy 22: 25, 27 we are told that, “But if out in the country a man happens to meet a girl pledged to be married and rapes her, only the man who has done this shall die, for the man found the girl out in the country, and though the betrothed girl screamed, there was no-one to rescue her.” The book also in different chapters, speaks strongly against other sexual immoralities such as pre-marital sex, and cheating among the married.

Prostitution is also condemned very strongly in the Bible. Viewing sex as a sacred gift given to man by God purposely for pleasure and reproduction after marriage, the bible is against prostitution as a practice. In the book of Leviticus, God gives Moses set of rules to help the Israelites live with high morals. One of the immoralities they are warned against is prostitution. In Leviticus 19: 29, it reads, “Do not degrade your daughter by making her a prostitute or the land will turn to prostitution and be filled with wickedness.”

Sexual immorality is also advised against in the Bible. In the book of first Thessalonians, the Bible advice humanity to desist from sexual immorality. 1 Thessalonian 4: 3-5 says that ” It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God.” This sums up sexuality as viewed by the Bible.

Understanding Biblical sexuality

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The Brain Chemicals of Sex

Brain On Sex: How The Brain Functions During Sex

The act of having sex or making love is a very complicated exercise. It is far from the simple physical act of merging sexual organs together. The sexual practice has actually to involve some emotional feeling from both individuals doing the act. For these emotional feelings from both the couple to work together in unison, there would be need for some body coordination. This coordination of the bodies of those in the act of having sex is done by the brains of both the couple. The brain has some chemicals that aid in this type of coordination. When both couples are in the mood for sex, the brain sends a communication to the receptors that are responsible and these chemicals are released as a result; dopamine, norepinephrine, prolactin, oxytocin and vasopressin, endorphins, serotonin, phenylethylamine, and testosterone.

The Brain Chemicals of Sex

When a couple is about to engage in a sexual act, their bodies experience some sexual feeling and excitement. Both their brains respond by releasing the neurotransmitter dopamine, which is released by the part of the brain called ventral striatum. This is the part of the brain is wired in such a way that it is essentially the reward sensing system part of the brain, which acts as the pathway to experiencing pleasure. So when the couple starts to get intimate or start doing things that are slightly sexual in nature, as kissing and touching intimately, dopamine surge within their brains increases. This causes a lot of pleasure anticipation for the couple that they completely have no control over. The desire drives them crazy, and being that their brains probably know what they should do; sexual intercourse becomes an involuntary act. And this is how their bodies get used to responding each time they come into contact with each other in some sexually suggestive way.

Working closely with dopamine is the phenylethylamine. This chemical is produced by the brain in response to the sexual desire of the body. When a couple feels sexually attracted to each other, phenylethylamine is released in the brain. This hormone causes sexual attraction between the couple in addition to the feeling of excitement. It is also the hormone that triggers the production of dopamine. Its production occurs during sex and peaks at orgasm.

Before getting to the actual sexual act, the bodies and brains of both the couple need to be put at ease and ready for sex. At this stage, the brains respond by producing norepinephrine hormone. This hormone is responsible for making the body ready for sexual intercourse. It creates some sense of focus and alertness to the brains as it communicates to them what is coming. This focus on the brain is needed for the act of making love to be satisfactory to both couples. This is because sex goes beyond just the physical aspect of it. The feelings need to be internalized and processed from the inside too.

Brain and sex

Next in line of hormonal production on the brain during sexual intercourse are the oxytocin and vasopressin. These two hormones are for bonding. They assist the brains of the couple commit to bonding between their bodies. This it does by laying down a long-term memory for the brain cells. What normally happens during sex is that, the oxytocin hormone triggers or stimulates the prostate, which in turn causes the muscles of the body to contract, thereby causing sensitization of the nerves. This leads to the climax, hence the sexual orgasm. At which point the bodies of the couple experience the bonding as those their bodies were one.

Endorphins is another brain hormonal is released by the body during sex. It is formed within the body that binds to the opiates receptor sites in the brain. The hormone that that calming effect on the body by creating the sense of well-being and relaxation during sex. It also causes high wave of pleasure during sex.

The ultimate climax of making love or having sex is the orgasm. When a couple achieves orgasm during sex, there is the blissful feeling of pleasure that comes from deep down the bond created by orgasm. At the same time, a hormone called serotonin is released. Serotonin makes the body relax and calms down after having sex. The good feeling of sex is, and the good aftermath feeling is caused by this hormone. Then finally, there is the hormone called the prolactin. This hormone disengages the brain off the orgasm feeling. It clears off the orgasm arousal hence shifting the concentration of the mind off sex.

Brain On Sex: How The Brain Functions During Sex

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Female Sex Addiction: Withdrawal Symptoms to Look Out For

Withdrawal Symptoms For Female Sex Addiction

Withdrawal symptoms for female sex addiction can be quite severe and include physical symptoms. The women dealing with withdrawal symptoms for female sex addiction have to deal with a variety of physical symptoms including insomnia and sleeplessness, flue-like symptoms possibly including vomiting, and symptoms of deep grief and sadness. Also included on the list of symptoms are extreme irritability and restlessness, craving, shame, or guilt. Another set of withdrawal symptoms listed all of the above in addition to:

  • loss of interest in life
  • chills
  • heart palpitations
  • tremors and shaking
  • constipation
  • feeling raw
  • hyperactivity
  • anger
  • inability to think straight
  • confusion
  • feeling numb
  • fatigue
  • bad dreams
  • emotional instability
  • aches and pains
  • inability to concentrate
  • hypersensitivity
  • despair
  • boredom
  • loss of energy
  • physical and emotional discomfort
  • insecurity

These symptoms can come and go, or change from one extreme to the other.  A female sex addict in withdrawal can feel like they’re going insane. There can also be a sense of loss because the addiction has been the addicts’s “best friend”.  The worst of the symptoms usually start to taper off in the second week or so of abstinence, but until they do, they symptoms need a detoxification process much like that gone through by those using drugs and alcohol.

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Working with a skilled therapist in addition to going to 12 step meetings are helpful, if not crucial, for women dealing with this painful process.  Love addicts can choose to go through this process when they reach the depths of despair and hopelessness engendered by the disease of female sex addiction. Other times they go through it involuntarily, when their partner, often a love-avoidant one, abandons them because of their behavior.

 

One of the problems that love addicts (or those with female sex addiction) face is that no one person can give them the ongoing unconditional love and acceptance the female sex addict seeks.  This can cause the female sex addict to cycle through a series of highs and lows which usually end in severe disappointment.

 

Female Sex addicts are seldom comfortable in their relationships and pursue a series of very intense  relationships. These relationships become more important to them than their job, children, and even self-care.  The relationships themselves seldom provide intimacy as such; rather, they provide the basis of a fantasy that doesn’t come close to reflecting the reality of their partner.

 

By the time they come for treatment, many sex addicts are in such deep depression that they need antidepressant medication in order to give them some sense of stability while they work through the issues that they come in with. By this time, the physical consequences of sex addiction are often also manifesting themselves and the female sex addict may be having to deal with physical illness caused by stds and the consequences of inadequate nutrition and the abuse of drugs. Some also need the consequences of physical abuse healed.

The symptoms of withdrawal from female sex addiction are many.  They include psychological, social, and physical problems caused by the years of neglect of self, jobs, and relationships.  The women who are caught up in the life of a female sex addiction need to repair the mess they have made of their lives and learn, some for the first time in their lives, to construct healthy intimate relationships with other people that are based in reality, not in their fevered imagination. This takes a lot of hard work and a relationship with a good therapist will make it much easier.

 

Something else that female sex addicts need to do is to break the “code of silence” that has consumed much of their lives.  This silence is not born out of respect for one’s partner, as is the case with Islamic families, but out of fear.  This fear can become overwhelming and paralyzing in some respects.  It is not a specific fear, but a generalized fear. In some cases this is the way these women grew up in a household where no one ever talked about anything because one or both parents were caught up in their own addictions and so were unavailable to the young girl.

 

Some researchers believe that the sex drive is even stronger than the drive to eat when hungry.  It is known that rats will brave an electric shock in order to get to a rod that stimulates the pleasure centers in their brain.  Even starving rats, on the other hand, will not brave an electric shock in order to get to food. This argument, applied to humans, would seem to indicate that the consequences of developing an addiction and then stopping without replacing that addiction with something that stimulates those same pleasure centers will be highly traumatizing to the person who does it.

Female Sex Addiction: Withdrawal Symptoms to Look Out For

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