Communicating Your Sexual Needs to Your Partner Can
Help Him Satisfy You
Relationships suffer because of lack of or insufficient communication. Sex is not a one party activity but it involves the actions of to people who mutually consented to be part of it. Without this consent it is something else- rape. This sounds gross? It is a misconception that every time a man wants sex then the woman must need it too. At times this might not be the case as numerous changes in the human body that may be caused by factors such as past experiences or even disease that may make a person’s urge for sex be unpredictable. Even the very nature of sex endorses the need for communication. You do not only need to communicate about sex when asking for it but even in the midst of the acts it is very necessary to send signals that shows your husband that you are part of the activity just removing clothes and laying on your back is not enough to make that experience enjoyable. Needless to mention a major issue that many women and men are complaining of is the fact that one party may be left unsatisfied by the time the whole action has come to end. Women are mostly the victims. It is better to understand that men and women have different biological reactions towards sex. Normally a man may get sexually exited, reach plateau, ejaculation and recovery phase when the woman is just beginning to be aroused. In this scenario a woman needs to ask for a well timed foreplay before penetration so that by the time they will be done she will have achieved orgasm. It is not about haphazard talking, communication with your husband on matters of the bedroom should be approached with respect and carried out in manner that will not leave your man belittled or despised. The conversation also needs to be carried out at the right time and place to have positive impacts. Here are some tips that may help to communicate your sexual needs to your husband.
Women have the tendency that every man knows what a woman needs sexually. This is a great mistake. Every person has his own sexual fantasies that she needs explore for sexual satisfaction this therefore means that you need to tell your husband how you would like to be treated during sex so that you are satisfied. As you grow your sexual needs changes too and it is therefore right to let your man know of your new desires so that he may be able to satisfy you. Due to variations in hormone levels you may want him to spend more time turning you on than he used to in the past when you were more active. Discussing this will help him satisfy you sexually.
- Don’t begin complaining in the midst of the act
Complaining during the act will not solve anything. Even after he has just finished and you feel like you still need it some more do not complain. That will only make matters as it will kill his self esteem which will affect his subsequent performances. It is also not good to discuss such issues in the bedroom. It is not the right place to air your needs to your husband. The best place and time to do this is during romantic outings when all your attention is in each other and the atmosphere is not tense. It will allow you to speak with ease in a less provocative manner which shows respect and appreciation. In your discussion do not site a particular event in which he failed to satisfy you, he may become defensive raising competition in the conversation which is not healthy.
If you have something to talk about, do not make it an impromptu conversation but let him know in advance and create time for the conversation. If possible let him suggest the best time for the conversation so that it doesn’t clash with his schedules. Most men are programmed and they do things as they plan and may not accept anything to interfere with their plan. So let him fix this conversion in his schedule at a time comfortable for both of you. When you have created time have what you want to talk about ready before the ‘meeting’ this will help you to make these issues more precise and articulate.
- Visit the past
A visit into the better past can rekindle the candle of your sex life. Remind of what he used to do in the past that made you happy. This can be done with a sense of nostalgia. These past experiences will be able to help both of you open up for sex chat. You can ask ‘do you remember how long we used to caress? I miss those memories when you used undress me all by yourself I felt wanted and loved.’ This is a sure way of reminding him to revisit his sexual arsenal and do a great fixture to the present.
Generally communication plays a great role in matters of sex and you need to be open about your desires so that you can be satisfied. If need be you may consider visiting an expert who can help you spice your bedroom.
Dr. Dalal Akoury (MD) is an experienced doctor that has helped many cancer patients in their fight against the disease. She has also helped many people regain their sex appetite and add more fun their sexual life. She founded AWAREmed Health and Wellness Resource Center which is home to many people seeking health breakthrough. Call on her now and learn more on how to enhance your sexual health.
Communicating Your Sexual Needs to Your Partner Can Help Him Satisfy You
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