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Impact Of Female Sexuality

The Different Impacts Of Female Sexuality

 The impact of female sexuality is of crucial importance to a woman.  The first reason for this is that a woman’s sexuality affects her whole life.  It can turn that life into something worthwhile, or it can turn it into something that is not worth while at all. A woman’s sexuality defines who she is in a primary sense, just as a man’s sexuality defines his identity. 

This gender, or sexual, identification starts at birth.  The first thing the doctor announces is “it’s a boy!” or “you have a girl”. This is the first thing that matters, because it’s the first building block in the edifice that people will someday call “man” or “woman”.  Everything else matters, but is secondary to sexuality. 

Psychological impact 

The sex of a woman is vital to her psychology, as it is vital to the psychological development of a man.  It’s importance to a woman is her identity—to a man, it helps him to define himself as something “other” than a woman.  Since it is so very important, the woman needs to see her sexuality as something to accept and celebrate—it is her foundation as a person.  To a man, it is something to accept, because one of the ways he defines himself is in contrast to a woman.  It is also something to perhaps feel superior about, because as a man, he is gifted with more strength than a woman has.  He has a heavier bone structure than she does; he has more muscle mass than she does. He can protect himself in ways that she cannot.  However, the fact remains that she has something he does not—she has the ability to conceive and create a new human being.  He can contribute to that new human, but she has the ultimate power to say this child will/will not be born.  

Sociological 

A woman’s sexuality is the reason society exists.  Even in the most primitive societies, the responsibility of a man is to protect and nurture his woman.  This is because every man must recognize on some level that if women were not sexual, society would not exist.  That being said, one of the commonalities of every culture is to limit the expression of sexuality. This applies to both males and females, but because of their weaker anatomy, it was more often the female’s sexuality that was limited and defined by men.

 

One of the major ways that this happened was the development of societal “norms” which defined men’s and women’s roles. These norms stated that women did certain things and women did other things.   Since we have come into a time where physical anatomy doesn’t matter as much, women’s roles have been changing changed.  The major ways that this is so are:

  • women have more legal rights
  • women are allowed to have more/different occupations
  • women are accorded a greater stature in society

 

Legal

 

The thing is the legal system was originally meant to protect women. The reason it was important for a man to accumulate wealth was to ensure that his children had something to start life out with.  Who provided the children?–Not his buddies.  No, it was his wife. So in order to assure his children of a proper inheritance he had to take care of his wife.

 

Cultural

 

Again, without female sexuality there would be no culture. After all, what is culture? Culture is the way we live. A large part of the way we live is men trying to impress the women so they would have access to her sexuality, so the men could have sons who they could train to carry on after they were gone. So men do everything they can to impress a woman so she will allow him to live with her.

 

Political

 

This is another way that men sought the approval of a woman, inviting her to live with him and bear his children. This would not have happened if the woman were not a sexual being, and if sex were not gratifying to both men and women.

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Spiritual

 

The earliest religions were those which worshiped women because of their ability to create life. Primitive people still do this.  In that way, spirituality and women’s sexuality are connected.  And according to some US studies, spirituality is also connected to a woman’s sexuality in that women who are more spiritual enjoy sex more and so are more likely to have sex. So men are more likely to espouse spirituality in order to have sex more often.

 

Religious

 

One of the ways in which women’s sexuality has impacted religion is because of an apparent contradiction.  Women who are spiritual have sex more often and enjoy it more.  Men who are spiritual have sex less often. So religion, which places limits on both the woman’s sexual experience and the male sexual experience, was born out of the male sexual experience and serves to restrict and limit the sexual experience of both genders.

 

Female sexuality has greatly impacted our society in many ways.  From serving as the identity touchstone to influencing the ways we think, play, argue, and worship, female sexuality has touched the lives of every female and male alive in a myriad of ways.  This article barely skimmed the surface.

The Different Impacts Of Female Sexuality

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Islamic Female Sexuality

Understanding Islamic View On Female Sexuality 

Islamic female sexuality, like the female sexuality of Hebrew women, can have sever impacts on the way they worship and what they are traditionally allowed to do.  For example, many mosques do not allow women to come in if they are experiencing their menses.  This is because women traditionally did not have the protection for their clothing and environment that they needed while they were on their courses.  Another reason it that Islamic women, like women all over the world, were seen as subservient to men and in need of being controlled by them.

muslim-tangoIt is being recognized that both these views need to be changed.  And indeed, they are slowly changing.  In the developed world, women now have access to many means of protecting their environment and their clothing from the products of menstruation. This means it is no longer necessary for women who are experiencing their courses to be ostracized or confined to a specific area of the house, as was traditional not only in Islamic households but in Christian and Hebrew households as well.

Along with this necessity came a view of women as shameful beings that were lesser than men and who were more strongly implicated in the areas of physicality and sexuality than were men. It seems to be a logical consequence of the confinement suffered by women as a result of menstruation—if a woman needed to be confined during certain times of the month, then obviously she must be inferior to someone who did not need such confinement.  Also, being bound, as it were, to the physical world by menstruation and childbearing, it was thought that it was more difficult for women to become “spiritual beings”.

The reasoning for this went:

  • Women are excluded from contact with men during their monthly courses.
    • Menstruation was seen as a temporary illness and given the same consideration as would be given during any other illness, including a release from the necessity of fasting, prayers, and other rituals.
    • Women who are menstruating are seen as ritually unclean. Since she cannot be properly cleansed until after the bleeding stops, she is not in the proper state to enter the mosque or recite the Qur’an.
  • Since women are also excluded from entering the mosque or reciting the Qur’an in a formal setting, this is seen as a defect in her religion. Since her religion (or her religious observance) is defective, this means that she can never achieve the same level of spirituality as is available to a man.

The weakness in this reasoning is the undisputed view that men and women are equal in their duties and expectations as servants of God. To say that one is only capable of a certain amount of faith because of hindrances in observing the various rituals and observances in a religion negates all the other aspects of experience, faithfulness, and actions that cannot be quantified.  It says that God rewards only for deeds and not intentions, instead of in the accepted manner of rewarding both deeds and intentions.  However, men who are insecure or fearful of women for whatever reason will bring forth this argument as “reason” for subjugating females.

 

With all this being said, and with the fact that (some) Muslim communities endorse and practice female genital mutilation,  one would thing that the average Muslim woman is shy, virginal, and not receptive to sexual advances by her husband.  One would be wrong.  The rational behind female genital mutilation is that women are not able to control themselves.  This is not so, and if you actually take the other parts of the Qur’an seriously, is not permitted by Muslim law.

Now, one would think of the typical Islamic female as being shy, retiring, and unable or unwilling to respond to the advances of her husband. One would be wrong.  Many Islamic believers believe that in the bedroom between husband and wife, as long as both parties are agreeable, anything goes except anal penetration. However, one of the traditions kept by most Islamic couples is to draw a veil of complete privacy over practices in the bedroom. So if a woman and her husband are having trouble in that area of their relationship, this practice can keep them from receiving the help that they need.

The Islamic bill of rights spells out in detail the rights and responsibilities of a married woman, including the right not to be slandered.  All the rights in the article are included in Shaira law, and some, such as the woman’s right to make independent decisions about her body, were surprising.  However, the main point of the articles I read was that Islamic women are like women all over: horney and waiting for a good man who knows, respects, and likes women.

Understanding Islamic Female Sexuality

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