Female Sexuality Throughout History And Women Sexual Evolution

Female sexuality and female sexual desire has received a decent influx of interest in recent times. There is the curiosity around women sexual evolution which is really a big deal to men. Female sexuality includes processes and behaviors such as sexual behavior, sexual identity which also includes the psychological, physiological, social, cultural, political and spiritual aspects of it. Female sexuality can generally be seen as how females behave sexually. In looking at female sexuality throughout history and women sexual evolution, it has become obvious that there have been large changes in what is seen as the normal or acceptable or the usual as against what we currently see in women today.

For instance, women are seen to be more meticulous and conservative about who they have sex with in the past. They consider the cost and implications. They look out for certain qualities and traits, things that they find attractive and interesting and probably qualities they would love to be passed down to their offspring. Basically, from this point of view, female sexuality would be based on setting up a family. From time in memorial, men has been the ones that are careless when it has to do with sexuality. For men, it is largely about the experience, the pleasure more than the consequences of having sex.

However today, the whole table seems to be turning and men are freaking out. Female sexuality throughout history is not the same as we have now. Women are evolving. They are finding it easier to have sex with just any man who looks right, without considering the consequences. Nowadays, it’s about the pleasure first, before anything. So if a man can do her right, then he can’t get a pass. Friedrich Nietzsche said “Ultimately, it is the desire, not the desired, that we love” which makes it clear that women have now evolved.

In few studies that have been carried out, it has been made clear that the physical and mental responses of heterosexual women to visual presented sexual stimuli is higher. This shows that women’s bodies are specially designed for high interest in sex. However, because men have been the ones who control the sexuality arena, or so it seems, more often than not, women may deliberately shut down their own physical arousal in order to be absent from sexual intercourse. This is as far as it goes within a family setting. However today, women are stepping out to look for the desire and arousal everywhere else.

In recent studies, it appears women have lost interest in sex with their long term partners, their husbands and boyfriends. They are now much more interested in other men or males who can drive the passions they have. They seem to be pretty much interested in one night stands, with no strings attached. This used to be what men do! Men are now very worried when choosing their partners. Since most men attribute authority and ‘manliness’ to the ability to satisfy the desires of their partner, they worry a lot as to who their partner has been with and how well the person was able to sexually arouse her. If a male gets unlucky and marries one of the active females, then chances are that he will be competing with many males that have been in her life. This newfound sexual freedom for women therefore brings a lot of anxiety for males. Technically, for men, women are not supposed to evolve this way.

Males have always shown hallmarks of indiscriminate past – the drive to mate and with whom they mate doesn’t count. They just mate. Since females have had long histories of choice of whom they mate with, they certainly have developed mechanisms they use to measure and evaluate the quality of partners and as such adjust the levels of their desire accordingly. Now where this gets funny is, at some point in their relationship, this partner that used to bring desire ceases to and there is another need for another partner who can bring the required sexual stimulation for them to become sexually interested again.

At a point, if critically looked upon, it looks as if sexual monogamy is not really authentic any longer and marriage should be forgotten but that will be untrue because humans will always require that long-term partnerships. The fact that women have evolved sexually and are now sexually active as much as men doesn’t mean it is good. There just has to be a balance sought in between these things. An understanding of human sexual evolution and how women have always been very sexual will help us approach the thought of women sexual evolution very well.

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